When someone says the word “adventure”, most people would probably think it means going somewhere new and doing some exciting, and perhaps dangerous, activities you maybe thought you would never do. I believe that everyone has their own personal definition of an adventure. For some people, an adventure could be traveling to a new country or going skydiving. For others, it could be simply going for a walk in their city and exploring the sights.
I think it’s better to look at life as a daily adventure. In my experience, looking at it this way helps to keep things more interesting. Also, if you can allow yourself to go through your day with a sense of adventure, it’s a completely different mindset than looking at your day as something to just make it through. If you look at it as an adventure, you approach every day with a certain level of curiosity and open-mindedness you probably wouldn’t have otherwise.
I like the idea of adventure so much that it was in one of the “taglines” we used at our wedding. “A short stroll can lead to a big adventure” was the quote that I felt captured the essence of our dating/engagement/wedding story. To anyone who doesn’t know us personally, our “relationship timeline” may have seemed much too fast. Some people thought everything happened too quickly, but we knew what we wanted and went for it. I saw our short time of being together before getting married as the short stroll that was leading to a big adventure. I knew it was leading to a big adventure for a lot of reasons, but mainly because I knew simply being married would be an adventure in itself. I also knew we would be traveling together to India to meet B’s parents and I had never even flown in an airplane! I knew I was getting myself into an adventure and wanted other people to understand that I was not stepping off the cliff into this adventurous life blindly. Being married to someone from a completely different culture is a huge adventure not to be taken lightly or by those who are faint at heart!
We went on our trip to Dubai and India when we had been married for about 5 months, had a blast, and settled back into everyday life when we got back. Since then we have been working on having the best marriage that we can. We look at other couples we know and scrutinize what we can see of their relationships. We try to see what works in marriages and what doesn’t. We gather information and inspiration on how to continuously work at making our relationship the best that we can. One thing that is continually important to us is adventure, but not always in the sense that one might think.
An example of how we adventure on a regular basis is cooking together. We cook a large majority of our dinners at home because we both enjoy home cooked food, it saves money, and we always know what goes into our meals. We almost always decide together what the evening’s dinner menu will be and plan our entree, side dish/dishes, and maybe a dessert. We usually split the work of the chopping and cooking, taking into consideration who is best at or most comfortable with each task.
For example, I DO NOT want to touch raw meat under almost any circumstance if it can be avoided without much inconvenience. I just don’t like it. Fortunately for me, my husband does not mind it. When we are having some kind of meat for dinner, he is usually the one that cleans it, trims off any unwanted meaty bits, and cooks that dish. I am so glad it works out this way! I prefer to take care of the veggie dishes while he cooks the meat dish. Another reason this system works out well for us is that we have two, sometime three different dishes cooking at once so it ends up taking less time than if we were to cook each dish one at a time. This division of labor is our normal cooking routine. But things get crazy on the weekends! …
During the working days, we usually have some type of chicken or egg dish as our protein and a rotation of a few different vegetable side dishes. But our way of adventuring without spending a lot of money or without the stress of planning a short getaway, is cooking a slightly fancier dinner on weekends. Many people may not think of this as an adventure, but that just means that you are a snob who can’t enjoy the simple things in life! Just kidding! …Kinda.
B and I are food lovers. We both enjoy trying new recipes and types of food. If either of us is having a bad day, a good meal is almost guaranteed to make us feel better. There is a chance that our love language is food. The problem with always wanting to try new recipes is that if they go wrong, you still have to eat dinner that night. And when we’ve worked all day and just spent our limited evening time cooking a dish that didn’t work out so well, it’s hard to be motivated to cook a whole new dinner. Granted, most of our new recipes don’t turn out so bad, but the main idea is the same. Our solution to this “problem” is to save our new and adventurous recipes/ingredients for the weekends.
What we like to do is decide what we want to try. It could be recipe that’s new, one that may take a longer time to cook than we can afford on a weeknight, one with an ingredient we aren’t very familiar with, or one with an ingredient that may be too fancy for everyday meals. We wind down after the week/escape from reality by spending more quality time together in the kitchen creating a better/fancier meal to enjoy. We may stay up a little later than normal on a Friday night because of it, but when we don’t have to worry about getting enough sleep to go to work the next morning, it’s a fun time.
This type of adventure is one any couple can go on from the comfort of their home and their local grocery store. The time spent being creative as a team is priceless to us. Working together towards our goal of having a nice, home cooked meal that spices the routine up a bit after a week of being on our own separate schedules helps us focus on our relationship and the start of our weekend “us time”. So next time you feel the need to spice up your relationship, try a new recipe, literally!