The Things That Keep Us Up at Night

My husband and I have been married for almost three and a half years now. We have gotten to know each other pretty well and have talked about a myriad of things over the years. We’ve been through a few different stages in our relationship and have moved to different houses and states. I would say we have grown up and grown together a great deal since we first were getting to know each other.

If you’ve read any of my previous posts, you know that we are from different countries and grew up speaking different languages. Clear communication continues to be a challenge at times, just like in any other normal relationship, honestly. If you are in a relationship with someone who isn’t exactly like you, you’ve probably experienced something like this:

You both usually try to go to bed at a decent time. You cook, eat, clean up, get ready for bed and are feeling good about your time management today. You’re about to get plenty of rest. Then it happens.

One of you brings up some topic that’s been bouncing around in your head, keeping you from falling asleep. You start talking. You each talk about your opinion of the issue, why it is the way it is, you reach some common ground and then you hear it: the mispronounced word.

You try to ignore it because you know it’s not a big deal, you still understand what the other person is getting at. You start itching to clear up the mispronunciation because you want your spouse to clearly communicate with the rest of the people he or she may interact with other than just you. But it’s no big deal, it’s no big deal, it’s no big deal…

Finally, you can’t hold it in any longer and you blurt out, “It’s warm, not worm!”

What!?

This leads to a back-and-forth pronunciation game where one of you keeps saying it wrong, or not being able to hear the difference between the two. You argue about it then you laugh about it. Then you remind each other that this is one of the charms of your relationship. This is one of the things you love and cherish about being married to someone from a totally different culture than yours.

Then you realize it’s 3:00am and you have work in the morning. Yay.